April Blog

If you want to find contentment – start from where you are and not where you think you should be…6th


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Santosha is the second of the Niyamas of Patanjali’s Eight Limbs of Yoga, roughly translated it means contentment. In the Eight Limbed path of yoga, before we are taught asanas (poses),  we are taught to observe as best we can, Yamas and Niyamas.

For Yamas, think guidance on how we should interact with the world. The Yamas are very actionable; you can easily see how to put principles like ahimsa (non-violence)  into practice. They apply to us all, no matter who or where we are and they are pretty simple.

Niyamas, on the other hand, can seem a little trickier. They lead us towards a more positive relationship with ourselves, but adapting these very personal guidelines to make them relevant to our lives can sometimes seem challenging because there’s often not one straightforward thing we can do to bring their concepts into fruition. This is undeniably true of Santosha, the niyama that means contentment – it sounds like something we definitely want, particularly now –  so how do we get there?

If we even think of it at all, we may think of ‘contentment’ as a far-off goal, something we might find eventually once everything else lines up just the way we’ve always want it to. When all our problems have melted away; when we can get back to ‘normal’; when we can see friends face to face once more or when our money and health worries no longer seem to loom large in our minds –  but  the reality is a little different.

Things are always changing and it’s rare for the things we imagine to turn out the way we planned. In todays world it’s easy to see that our paths follow directions we never dreamed of. We make contact with people who to our surprise, change our direction or understanding;  old doors close and new ones open, creating new possibilities and opportunities that we may never have considered.

Yoga encourages us to be in the present moment as much as possible – so why would we put off finding something as important as contentment until we feel all our ducks are neatly aligned? If we only find contentment when our constantly changing vision of perfection matches our reality, surely contentment, if it could ever exist would be at best fleeting and more likely an impossible state?



We don’t get much help from today’s goals-driven culture. Contentment doesn’t make for eye catching headlines. For many the word ‘contentment’ may feel like ‘giving up’, simply being ‘happy with your lot’, or even ‘not trying’ and seeing other people’s apparently perfect lives on Instagram isn’t conducive to feeling OK with what often feels like the reality of our own less than ‘perfect’ lives.

It takes some time and a fair amount introspection (think svadyaya or self study ) to realise that what everyone is after isn’t actually flashy cars or a bank account that could fund a small country, it’s a way of being ok with ourselves. Beyond the dream job, dream house or dream partner we are looking for contentment.


The truth is, nothing external is going to deliver happiness on a silver plate because contentment is an inside job. What Grannie taught you was in fact true, the trappings of someone else’s symbols of wealth, achievement, or even health really won’t help you find a place where you are happy with you. Instead then, why don’t we try to find joy in our present circumstances -whatever they are.


When I teach Santosha in class, often students will ask me if this means becoming complacent? What about staying hungry, what about getting to the top, what about wanting to improve our lot?

Won’t contentment lead to complacency?


It’s a misunderstanding of what contentment means, but it’s an understandable question. Santosha isn’t the end of growth. It’s not the full stop at the end of the sentence. It’s not about settling for less than you deserve or giving up and accepting the status quo.

It is about being OK with yourself regardless of your situation. When we talk about doing the work in yoga, the work is not nailing a difficult pose. The work is coming to a place where doing the pose or not doesn’t impinge on our self-worth. As is so often the case, the work we do on the mat reverberates into all corners of our lives. You still change and grow but you become less attached to the results because your happiness is not based on results.

Realising that Santosha doesn’t hinge on perfection is one of the most important lessons we can learn. It’s a state of mind in which we can experience ups and downs, highs and lows, and then return to balance. Our boats can still be rocked but they don’t capsize quite as easily.


Yup, even now – especially now!


Practicing gratitude is a little like strengthening your muscles through practising asanas and the more you practice the stronger your relationship with contentment. Neuroscience has proven that taking time to feel grateful can improve your sense of well-being as well as your mental and physical health.

So exactly how do we practice gratitude?

Its really not that hard . Write down what you are grateful for, or simply take a few moments each day to just think of things you are thankful for. Coming up with three or four good things in your life and taking the time to note them helps tip the scales toward contentment quite a bit. It’s a strong counter to the type of negative thoughts that often run through our minds.

Back to our reticular activating system – think of it as the little switch in your brain that tells you what’s important to notice. Like when you are in a crowded room – you may not hear all conversations but if you hear your name you are likely to notice. The more we teach our RAS that what’s important to notice are the things that make us feel good, the more we notice those things and the more content we become.

Contentment doesn’t have to wait until we are older or wiser. It doesn’t have to wait until our movement is unlimited or we can emerge fully once more into our busy lives. We need not wait until we have accomplished more, paid off the mortgage or reached the end of the journey. Remember that our journey is constantly changing – like many things in yoga – Santosha may look like a goal but it’s really more of a process.

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The first step is recognising what you already have, not in terms of material possessions but in the intangibles that make you truly happy. Your child laughing, the sunrise, your dog with his silly floppy ears, so happy to greet you when you awake (Yup for all the slobber, I love my morning cuddles from Sid) – whatever lifts your spirits take time to acknowledge and delight in the things around you. The more you take time to notice these moments, the more abundant they will become.

When we start from where we are and not from where we think we should be, when we allow ourselves to pay attention to what makes us happy each and every day, we can practice Santosha. What makes you happy today?

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